If you have come this far, having read about the WHAT HAPPENED IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN, and FEMINISM AND THE BIBLE, you are clearly aware that the Bible is set squarely against feminism. Yet millions of women have lived their lives by the Bible’s commands. In so doing they have led happy and full lives within the role defined by the Bible. They stand in stark contrast with the women who have rejected their assigned role, who have a career but are single mothers, or married many times over, often with children from several fathers. The subscribers to feminist ideas struggle through life and feel empty. What is it that makes a woman of the Bible’s method content and happy in her life? Her relationship with God, and a good man! The Bible has commands for the man as well as the woman and those commands are just as aggressively under attack from the feminists. What does the Bible say that a man’s role is in the family. Look at this verse and see what you can see that is speaking to men:
Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church. 1 Corinthians 14:34,35.
This verse implies that the man is commanded to study and prepare as well as pay attention in the service and ensure his own understanding in order to be able to answer the questions of his wife. How can he answer her questions, which an intelligent woman will certainly have, if he is not prepared? He must actively participate in the service, or be found wanting. "Big deal!" you may be thinking. But here is highlighted where our society is breaking down. Men are seeing women as totally self-sufficient, and are washing their hands of them in the areas of protection and permanent bonding, rather than feeling that women need protection and consideration. Men are far more civilized in their behavior, they reach to much higher levels, when they are focused on taking care of their women. The old saying, "Behind every great man is a good woman!" is valid. If we want to have great men in our society we need good women behind them, inspiring them to greatness.
Next another verse which looks to be speaking to women but in reality is speaking just as much to men:
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 1 Corinthians 11:3
A man is commanded to treat his wife with as much love and selfless giving as Christ has done for the church. When Christ is held up as the example of being the head, a man has a tough act to emulate. Will he abuse his wife, dominate her, and make her a slave? Absolutely not! He will have her happiness in mind at all times. He will strive to provide for her wants as well as her needs and honor her always. There is no room in such a relationship for abuse or abandonment.
Now for commands directed directly at the man alone:
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it... So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church... For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh...Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself... Ephesians 5:25, 28, 29, 31, 33
Where is there room for women hating here? I don’t see it. A man is commanded to love his wife as much as if she were a part of his own body. What man goes out and beats on his body with a hammer on purpose? What man goes out and intentionally hurts himself in any way. A man guards himself against injury, and strives to avoid personal pain. He now will extend that zone of protection around his wife. If she is injured, he is injured. If she is happy, he is happy. Her wishes and desires are foremost in his mind. He leaves his parent’s house and joins the rest of his life with hers. They walk a joint path and search for happiness together. Here is a biblical marriage. Here is a happy and permanent marriage.
Here also is what the feminists hate and are striving to destroy. This blissful relationship drives them crazy! The idea that a man and woman can work together so smoothly in this arrangement is impossible for them to comprehend.
In the same vein, it is stated in Colossians:
Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. Colossians 3:18
When a couple forgets the small things in a relationship, things can build up and bitterness is the result. When a wife does something nice for a man, he must thank her for it and let her know that it is appreciated. Flowers, and other small gifts can fill his wife’s heart with joy. When a man is thinking of making his wife happy, and she is thinking of making him happy, there is just no way that they will not be happy! Bitterness can never grow in a mutually giving house.
In speaking of a man seeking the office of Bishop in the church, it is commanded that he be:
One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?) 1 Timothy 3:4, 5
Here it clearly states that a man is responsible for the things the members of his household do. He is tasked with running a tight ship and keeping his kids in line. He is not free to dump all responsibilities for the house and kids on his wife, while he goes out with the boys or even strives to excel in his career. He is responsible for what goes on at home. He sets the bounds that the children will not cross, and he is the one to deal with them if they do. He ensures that his wife is treated with honor and respect, by himself and the children. If mother says, “Wait till your father gets home,” he is responsible for making his appearance that night something sufficiently memorable that mother’s future role in controlling the kids is made easier during the day while he is not present.
After speaking to the wives about their responsibilities to their husbands, Peter turns to the men and says,
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:7
Men are commanded to honor their wives and protect them. Abuse, belittlement and derision is not acceptable! In fact it says that even your prayers will be hindered if you do not treat your wife with respect and honor.
Marriage is a team effort, with both members striving for a common goal. The roles are different, just like on any team. If either member of the team is not pulling in the right direction, the whole team suffers. Whether in business, sports or marriage, each member of the team has a role to perform. In doubles tennis, if both members of the team cover the left side, the right side is wide open, and the opponents will hit it there every time. If both cover the net, the baseline will be uncovered. When both partners in a marriage are trying to be bread winners, the kids will be left unattended. When both partners are trying to lead, nobody is following.
The roles for the marriage team have been spelled out clearly in the Bible. What it says is the complete opposite of what the feminists believe and teach. Their “enlightened” approach has led to divorce and single mothers. The Bible’s way has led to millions of happy, long-lasting marriages. For a Christian, feminism is not an option because it is anti-biblical, illogical, and a proven failure.
